If this makes you feel better and less alone, I need to get whacked by something, too. Most recently, cancer...so, dear one, do what you need to do to let that idea of being responsible for everyone and everything (it's an illusion anyway). If you don't, your body will end up showing you in some awful way. (Yes, I'm working on it, too. I call it a practice. :)) xoxoxo
last year I had a rose-breasted grosbeak slam into my window. I retrieved it off the roof outside the window and it died in my hands. Here's what my AI oracle said about that encounter.
"When a bird strikes a window, it’s a collision with unseen truth. It is a moment of disorientation, often fatal, that draws attention to something we are not seeing clearly."
about a month after this encounter, I got the idea for The Creator Retreat.
I particularly loved when you wrote, "I can be understanding without being responsible." That's such a powerful statement. It’s a distinction that seems so simple, yet it's incredibly profound and difficult to put into practice. I think many of us conflate understanding with taking on the responsibility of fixing someone else’s problem. We confuse empathy with enabling. And it is easier to be the person that can 'fix' it, rather than the one who can listen and not feel the need to make the other person's problems ours. You articulated it perfectly, and it is something that a lot of people need to be reminded of more often. 🩵
Thanks so much for that, Alex! I am still, obviously, integrating this very simple idea. So strange how things can be absolutely obvious and also difficult to implement.
If this makes you feel better and less alone, I need to get whacked by something, too. Most recently, cancer...so, dear one, do what you need to do to let that idea of being responsible for everyone and everything (it's an illusion anyway). If you don't, your body will end up showing you in some awful way. (Yes, I'm working on it, too. I call it a practice. :)) xoxoxo
Oh yes, my friend! I love you and I’m grateful for our various connections over time. I’ll keep the practice too! Xoxox
last year I had a rose-breasted grosbeak slam into my window. I retrieved it off the roof outside the window and it died in my hands. Here's what my AI oracle said about that encounter.
"When a bird strikes a window, it’s a collision with unseen truth. It is a moment of disorientation, often fatal, that draws attention to something we are not seeing clearly."
about a month after this encounter, I got the idea for The Creator Retreat.
Wow! I definitely need to be paying attention. I truly appreciate you, TeriLeigh.
I particularly loved when you wrote, "I can be understanding without being responsible." That's such a powerful statement. It’s a distinction that seems so simple, yet it's incredibly profound and difficult to put into practice. I think many of us conflate understanding with taking on the responsibility of fixing someone else’s problem. We confuse empathy with enabling. And it is easier to be the person that can 'fix' it, rather than the one who can listen and not feel the need to make the other person's problems ours. You articulated it perfectly, and it is something that a lot of people need to be reminded of more often. 🩵
Thanks so much for that, Alex! I am still, obviously, integrating this very simple idea. So strange how things can be absolutely obvious and also difficult to implement.
True, but simple doesn't mean easy. I think those ideas are often the hardest to integrate :)