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Teri Leigh 💜's avatar

90 Days Sober!!!! Congratulations!

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Mel's Messy Love Lab's avatar

Gratefully, it was a short relapae after years in recovery! I have an amazing support system. :)

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Teri Leigh 💜's avatar

you are an amazing soul.

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Kyle Fisk's avatar

"Perfectly imperfect" is a beautiful place to be! Thanks for your reflections today, Mel.

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Alexander Lovell, PhD's avatar

"I’m working on replacing the tape that says 'You’re not good enough. You don’t try hard enough and you let people down all of the time.' With a tape that says: 'You are rocking it by doing your best. You care. You do know how to love and how to show up. You work hard to help and you matter.'" This quote really resonated with me because it highlights the continuous, often arduous, inner work we all face. It’s not about erasing the old narratives completely, but consciously choosing which ones we amplify.

The idea of "replacing the tape" is such a vivid metaphor for the agency we have in shaping our internal dialogue. It acknowledges the persistence of the old, less kind voices, but emphasizes the active effort required to cultivate a more compassionate and empowering narrative. It's a powerful reminder that self-love is an ongoing practice, a daily commitment to tuning into the kinder frequency.

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Kim S's avatar

This is so exciting! I think you are on to something big. Keep walking that path, dear Mel!

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Sam Messersmith's avatar

Mel, you are such an incredible person. To me you are so courageous in your living. With everything that you wrote and what I know about you from Zoom calls, I can't imagine any part of you saying you're not good enough. Just does not compute. You are a badass.

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Mel's Messy Love Lab's avatar

Thanks, Sam! I’ll take that in. ❤️

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Marcel  Castanchoa's avatar

You are So dear to me and I feel so grateful that you rolled down your window and got this party started!

Your words are beautiful and describe so much of what I experienced as well. You have a gift! You are a Gift!!! and the ripples are real

Thank you for being YOU!

J’taime♥️

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Mel's Messy Love Lab's avatar

Je t'aime aussi! Thanks for being that doorway in. <3

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